Site Testimonials

S says:
September 5, 2013 at 12:06 am

I’m so sorry, I forgot to add that this site has helped me so much. You’re a true hero and you have my gratitude. Thank you so much Lynn!!!!!

U says:

Dear Lynn, dear fellow survivors. Twenty years ago, it was not as easy to find help as it is now. And I can only recommend getting the information from the web and pulling all your courage together to get help from someone who knows what they are doing. – Because I didn’t.

I didn’t try to suicide, I even managed to have a “relatively” normal relationship in the last twenty years, but it takes a lot of power from me every single day, struggling to keep depression at bay, trying to muddle through and feeling alone, although there are people who love me.

And it scares me to look back and find, that it took me twenty years of my life to get the courage and talk to someone about what happened to me. I could have saved myself and my partner so much pain if I had gotten help in the first place. And it might have saved my relationship in the end; he never knew, until it was too late.

If you are uncertain, remember, no one will ask you to talk about any specifics until you are ready to do so. But you will feel better if you get this off your soul, and if you are being taken seriously. Once you know someone is going to help you, you will be able to free your head and look to your own future.

Don’t let something like this ruin your life and your future. If you can pull your courage together to take the first step, you will start feeling in control of your own life again, which will allow you to move on and leave the past behind.

Thank you Lynn for running this page, I am reading and slowly understanding why my mind is totally messed up in many different ways. I am ready to leave it behind now, finally. I got myself help, finally.


Thank you so much for this site! I was raped 9 months ago and I just cried about it and truly let it out a few nights ago. This is the hardest thing I have ever done. It really turned my life upside down. I never imagined in a million years it would have rocked me to my core like it has.
I am writing to thank you for the information, most sites only give information on rape (which is still too taboo in our society); your site actually gives steps to help survivors move on. It has been the most helpful out of all the information I have found. I want to thank you for that and keep up what you are doing it helps more people than you would ever dream of!
Thank you so much for this site! I was raped 9 months ago and I just cried about it and truly let it out a few nights ago. This is the hardest thing I have ever done. It really turned my life upside down. I never imagined in a million years it would have rocked me to my core like it has. I am writing to thank you for the information, most sites only give information on rape (which is still too taboo in our society); your site actually gives steps to help survivors move on. It has been the most helpful out of all the information I have found. I want to thank you for that and keep up what you are doing it helps more people than you would ever dream of!

hi lynn i wrote to you on the 2nd of feb 09 and just want to up-date you on whats going on. he as now been on remand since march and hes back in court and friday the 8th of may he still wont own up but i got too much evidence on him and about 29 girls have now come forward so my case is now stronger than ever.


Thank you so much Lynn. Everything you said made sense, I haven’t even thought about that the reasons for me not fighting back were valid. It scares me to think that this guy might have done the same thing to other girls, but it does make sense. I am working on taking the next step to counseling now. Thanks again!

thanks lynn for your time and help

thank you for your help, its great what your doing, and coming on a sight like this makes you realize your not alone and that there are other sufferers too. thanks again.




Hey Lynn
Its been a while, I have been great for the last few months. My counselor left in May (not my choice) and since then i tried to get along with another lady, she was really nice but i told her (in all honesty) that i just couldnt start again and i wanted a break.

I really didnt think it possible but i am happy. (no not all the time) but more so then i have ever been, i finally feel like i am being a real teenager who is no longer holding onto the past hurts. I have relaxed myself enough to enter a friendly relationship with a guy that shows me so much respect. I laugh everyday, i dont go home and dwell. School is so much easier then i ever thought possible. And friendships have become so much less complicated since i have let myself relax.

I just think that there was a point where i simply didnt think that i could ever be like this, it happens! It really does! Its not just a lie they tell you so you wont kill yourself! There IS hope, just wanted to let you know its people like you who help others reach this point.


Thank you. This is the first time I’ve been able to talk to someone and not regret it. I had just about given up hope. This helped more than I thought it would. Baby steps, right?

THANKFUL!  I just wanted to leave a thank you.All your information here is really helping me.Just 2 days ago I was raped.It is hard to say that because its still so fresh.The police have gotten my statement and had arrested the man but today I was feeling scared and alone.Like he was in my head just from the memories.All my thoughts today were it was my fault.Just like you were saying the ifs and ans.After reading what you had to say it was like this boulder just fell off my shoulders.Thank you again because just 15 mins ago I feeling very depressed and alone and now you have made me feel strong again.You have given me my strength back.THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
M.  thx for everything, this site is so great-it helped me a lot and i’m sure it will help many more survivors!


C.   Bless this site!
I searched the web for ages after I was raped looking for a site like this an am so relived now I’ve found it!
It may sound strange but I cannot express how much of a relief it is to hear other people experiencing the same emotional roller coaster as myself. The 1 thing that always helped me was when the nurse told me to stop thinking of it as a sexual act and as an act of control. That helped me try to get my head round it a little but its the after effects. I’m so scared when I meet new guys and I can’t get close to them without thinking about it, I suppose I need to allow myself more time to heal but I over worry as I’m 26 thinking I’m turning into an anti-man campaignist lol. I think as earlier stated I need to accept whats happened, trust it wasn’t my fault and take each day as it comes!

Much love to everyone who’s experienced or knows of someone going through the same things, WE WILL ALL GET THERE!!!!!! xXx

No longer loosing it

i Spoke with the EAP counselor, she is actually a rape specialist (go the luck). She diagnosed me with PTSD (post Traumatic Stress Disorder) and now that i know what it is it seems so much more manageable, its just another medical condition to manage.

Thanks to you lynne and this website for giving me the courage to go and share my story 🙂

B. THank you for the web site and the hotline. I’m going to go to the site as soon as possible. I want to feel whole again more than anything in the world. I am going to get help, that is the promise I have made to myself. Thank you again.


I just wanted to say thank you for your website, I came across it in a google search. I’ve been raped twice (once by someone I knew and trusted and once by a stranger) and was repeatedly raped by my ex – I’d say no, he’d go ahead anyway. I never wanted to call it rape, but when I think back that’s exactly what it was. This website has helped me clarify what happened to me as rape and I think that has helped. In a macabre way, and I mean no offense at all, from the comments I see on here its comforting to know I’m not the only one going through this – though obviously I wish none of us here were. T.

thank you so much for your time! It feels really good to know someone is out there that has a shoulder for you on the sad days! R.

Jeff says:
May 1, 2012 at 2:46 am

I’m a rape survivor. I was raped by a male and female neighbor when I was 5 and they were 15. I was also raped by my older brother from the time I was 6 until 13.
I told multiple people through out my childhood, even my parents and nothing was ever done to stop it. My mother often said she didn’t know what to do, and my father told me he thought it was normal childhood exploration, ie., show me yours and I’ll show you mine.
I’m 34 years old now, a single father of a two year old daughter and it took years of therapy and self reflection to get to a point in my life that I was proud of who I am and happy with myself.
Rape is something that isn’t understood by people that have not experienced it, though women tend to be much more understanding than men. I spent my childhood, adolescence and my early adult hood basically being a horrible angry person. I was mad at the world, mad at God, mad at my parents and the list goes on. I hated men, and spent a majority of my life fighting. My relationships with women were strained because I was so angry that I often took it out on them in the form of verbal abuse. I was hated in the community in which I lived, but no one knew what I had been through because I never felt anyone would understand, so I internalized my pain and expressed it in violence toward any and all men.
I spent 10 years in therapy and although I am not the angry person I used to be, I still have a distrust of all men.
I continue to go to a therapist bi-weekly, because it’s important for me to be a good parent for my daughter, and to ensure that I’m a positive role model of other victims of sexual abuse. As a college student, I’ve written papers on my experiences of rape, and written papers on rape blame.
It’s important that as a victim, that you seek help as quickly as possible. That you are not to blame, even if you did make bad choices in trying to deal with it on your own. Find people to tell, and continue telling your story until someone listens. But it’s important to get your story out so others can also learn from what you’ve been through.
I started seeing a woman months ago, and had her copy edit one of my papers for my composition class, a narrative discussing my rape experiences. Her reading my paper caused her to open up to me about her experiences. Not only did her brother rape her as a child, but she was raped by someone she had met at a local grocery store and subsequently became pregnant and now has a 2 year old bi-racial boy as a result of that rape. She lost her husband, over the situation, lost friends and even her parents didn’t believe her. Saying that she put herself in that position. Because of me, she’s now going to therapy to deal with her trauma that she has buried.
I find it important as a man to share my story with women, because I have a unique ability to completely understand rape.
Don’t ever give up seeking help, never blame yourself and don’t listen to those that do blame you. It’s often easier for others that can’t identify with you, or understand what you went through to blame you than it is for them to understand and accept. It’s also important for you to know that you’re not alone, and while the humiliation and violation you feel from your situation is something you’d like to forget, the reality is you can’t. Seek help, and talk about it. It helps a lot more than you think.

O says:
June 2, 2012 at 7:32 pm (Edit)

I was raped repeatedly by my boyfriends father several years ago. When I managed to get away from him he made me feel like I had hurt him really bad and he made me feel as if it was my fault. Ever since then I have just buried it, blamed myself and been happy on the surface. I had a few failed relationships that just seemed to be about sex. And then a couple of months ago an older man tried it on with me. This brought up all my bad memories and I went into a deep depression. My family noticed that something was wrong and eventually I told them what happened. They were totally devasted. I decided to turn my life around by going on a charity organised trip to Africa, at first I felt good because I had run away from my feelings. I became stronger mentally and realized I had a life and every day was a gift. But when I returned home memories still existed. I decided then that I was not going to let my past ruin another day of my life. I went on line and saw this amazing site. Thank you, Lynn you have given me so many tips and hope. I have read through other stories and oh my god. I wish everyone who has suffered such an horrific event the best of luck. You are all strong and ever so beautiful. Reading these posts has made me want to get up and sort my self out. I am going to go to a local counseller. Already writing it down has made me feel so much better.
It is some thing, I think, that I will always carry with me. I just don’t want it to affect me and stop me being happy.
Thanks again!

5 thoughts on “Site Testimonials”

  1. Hi Lynn,

    Just came across you’re website,and so much of it makes sense. I was raped when I was aged 7 and have just started to deal with it. I told my older sister when I was 10 what happened, I begged and pleaded for no action to be taken. I am now 26 and have been struggling with this for months. Well, I guess I have been struggling with it for years but not on a concious level. I completely disassociated myself from myself and everyone else. It wasn’t until a year ago that I opened my eyes. I went travelling, took myself out of mycomfort zone,it was then I saw everything for what it was. It hit me like a ton of bricks. I’ve been in therapy for the past year discussing everything. I find it extremely difficult t deal with this, one minute I feel strong and able and then the next minute I feel luike


    1. L. The good thing is your are feeling, unlike all those years that went by. The more your feel the more room you have to heal. I know you stated you’ve been in therapy for the past year, but don’t give up. I always tell people the longer they wait the longer it takes because it has affected your life in so many ways for such a long time. Just try and focus on the positive that you are actually feeling, this is good. Rape is like a shadow that you can’t run from, instead you must turn and face it head on and only then will you learn coping mechanisms that work specifically for you. You are doing the right thing and I know it’s not easy BUT it’s a lot easier than what you went through at 7 and you got through that so you can get through this. It’s well worth it and once you get your head straight you will be so looking forward to your future. Just remember the past can’t be changed but the future can be everything we want it to be if we just work for it. Stay strong! Lynn


  2. Hi Lynn,

    A couple weeks ago my best friend went on a date with a guy she had just started talking to. You know, the popular guy that everyone loves and you would never think to question his motives. Anywho, my best friend heard about a party that night so I went and picked up another good friend, picked up my bff and date from the movies and off we went. It started as a good night, my bff’s date was being friendly to me and it was a party that had people I was familiar with and I’m trusting this guy, he brought over a beer (I think, I don’t really remember if it was a beer or a cooler), I said wow thanks and started chugging it but then I stopped and asked him if he wanted some and he refused, like, he would NOT have any so I just shrugged it off and passed it to my bff who took a couple sips and then put the drink down. After that I can barely remember anything, the clearest moment I remember from that night is waking up to my bff’s date doing me… naked in the middle of the driveway on the hood of my car. I remember panicking and telling him that I have a boyfriend and I remember telling him how much it hurts and how he wasn’t stopping. I remember not being able to do anything like I would try to sit up but my muscles wouldn’t work properly and I would slam back down onto my car (I hurt my back pretty badly, there was a weird lump for a bit). And in the morning I woke up in the passenger seat of my car with a blanket and a pillow in the middle of a park that I’ve never been to with the guy nowhere in sight. My good friend and my bff both ditched me that night, leaving me alone with the guy. I don’t blame them at all, they didn’t know. But when I woke up in the morning I instantly knew what had been done to me and I went and found my bff and told her what happened and I’ve slowly been gathering allies so I have people who have my back and care about me when I go report what happened to me to the police tomorrow. I’m ready to take this guy down for what he did to me because this is me, this is my body and no one can just DO that to me and get away with it. I know there are going to be a lot of people who hate me, especially his younger twin brothers in the same grade as me. All that matters is that I have people who fully support me and that he’s not gonna be able to do this to anyone else, it stops with me.


    1. S. I’m SO PROUD OF YOU! Because this obviously wasn’t hisfirst time and if you didn’t turn him in it probably wouldn’t be the last. Now if you have any of your clothes from that night that haven’t been washed put them in a paperbag and take them with you. Did you take pics of your injuries or bruising? Hopefully you did and take them too. It will be your word against his but stand strong. You never know he may already have other girls that have reported him which would also help your case. Lastly, get yourself into counseling immediately because it will help you get through the process and then start living your life again. Again I can’t say it enough “I’m so VERY PROUD of YOU”! And I’m glad the site was able to help you. Stay strong! Lynn


  3. I’m so sorry, I forgot to add that this site has helped me so much. You’re a true hero and you have my gratitude. Thank you so much Lynn!!!!!


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